Beth Montemurro，易胜博娱乐分校的杰出社会学教授.
ABINGTON, Pa. — Rutgers University Press published "Getting It, Having It, Keeping It Up: Straight Men’s Sexuality in Public and Private," by Beth Montemurro, distinguished professor of sociology at Penn State Abington. Through her expertise in gender and sexuality, Montemurro uncovers the tension between public, 关于异性恋男子气概和男性隐私的文化叙事, sexual selves and their intimate experiences.
蒙特尔罗在为这本书所做的研究中最引人注目的发现揭示了研究中的男性是多么渴望被人认可他们“足够好”," not just as sexual partners, but as men and, more broadly, as people.
“男性从女性伴侣那里寻求对自己价值的肯定，因为这让他们觉得自己在做作为直男应该做的事情, 这包括吸引女性的注意和性生活表现良好吗, which made them feel like they were masculine men,” she said.
Based on in-depth interviews with a large, diverse group of heterosexual, cisgender men between the ages of 20 and 68, 这本书探讨了男性性行为的进化方式，以及在他们的性自我发展中对他们最重要的是什么.
“我关注的是女性所扮演的角色，她们既是确认男性性欲望的对象，也是代理人, sexual skill, and their sense of self-worth as men. Men really cared what women thought about them. 分手对他们来说是毁灭性的，因为这反映了他们作为男人的一面，”她说.
男人的性行为比我们想象的要多得多. We don’t want to discount negative aspect, 但对我们来说，理解男性气质的限制和更好地对待女性的好处是很重要的.——beth Montemurro，易胜博杰出社会学教授
The book is divided into three parts, with the first encompassing "Getting It," which happens on two levels. According to Montemurro, first, men needed to understand how sex works, with the next step being their first/early sexual experiences. 男性参与者非常专注于寻找性伴侣并引起女性的注意.
The second part is titled "Having It,Montemurro在书中写到了男性对性表现和熟练程度的关注.
“我注意到，男性在性接触中似乎有一个‘精通男人’的形象，他们觉得自己需要达到这个形象. 男性担心自己的性行为是否“正确”，并表示担心如果他们不够好，性伴侣会离开他们去找其他男人. 有趣的是，在男性评估自己对亲密关系的贡献时，性表现是多么重要,” she said.
The second part of "Having It" is about sex in relationships. 处于长期恋爱关系中的男性较少担心自己的表现和价值的认可，因为他们会从恋爱关系的长久和承诺中得到肯定. 在这些关系中，女性伴侣充当了肯定的代理人，因为她们的存在和感情让男人对自己感觉良好.
“我还发现，男性更喜欢在对性伴侣有强烈情感的时候发生性行为,” she said.
The third part is "Keeping It Up" in relationships. 男性担心维持活跃的性关系，以及能否找到并保持伴侣. 有些男人有外遇是为了在他们婚姻中的性亲密频率下降时证明他们仍然是有吸引力的. 另一些人如果处于独身关系中，就很难弄清楚自己是谁.
最后，“keep It Up”的另一部分是关于衰老和勃起功能障碍的。. About one-fourth of the men in the study experienced ED. 男性依靠女性伴侣向他们保证，即使她们不能或不能按照男性认为她们应该的方式行事，她们仍然是有价值的.
Montemurro希望这本花了7年时间研究和写作的书是一个行动的呼吁.
“我希望男人和女人能更好地相互理解. 男人的性行为比我们想象的要多得多. We don’t want to discount negative aspects, 但对我们来说，理解男性气质的限制和更好地对待女性的好处是很重要的,” she said.
在完成前一本书中对女性一生性行为的研究后，蒙特尔罗受到了写这本书的启发, "Deserving Desire: Women's Stories of Sexual Evolution."
“When working on that book, 我记得我们讨论过男人会如何回答我提出的一些问题. 起初，我觉得采访男性可能会让我更深入地了解女性的性取向，”她说.
Montemurro收集的数据比她在这本书中所能包含的还要多, she said, 所以她的下一个项目包括专门研究种族交集的论文, gender, and sexuality, which she is collaborating on with Elizabeth Hughes, assistant professor of sociology at Abington.
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Penn State Abington provides an affordable, 无障碍和高影响力的教育导致多元化学生群体的成功. 它致力于通过创新的方法在世界一流的研究型大学内实现21世纪公立高等教育的学生成功. With more than 3,000 students, 易胜博娱乐分校是一所住宿校园，提供23个专业的学士学位, undergraduate research, the Schreyer honors program, NCAA Division III athletics and more.
